I have been having a crisis with my training and fitness lately. I have had a shit-load of stuff playing on my mind in the last 4 months. Chief of which is my wife being pregnant. That happening is seriously something that I didn't expect due to my medical history and being told I would likely be sterile. This was a big OODA loop interrupter for how I thought the next 5 years would go. None of that is worrisome at all, it's just been on my mind a lot. Then I got a cold last week and was out of training for 5 days.
In that time, I remembered something... Sitting on the couch is easy and fun! I'd go home from work, and not have to run around getting ready and walking dogs and then run out of the door to get punched or choked. I'd just watch TV and drink a beer or something. This allowed me to get further into my own head.
Over-training is another contributing element to this. After finding out my wife was pregnant, I made it a point to train as hard as possible, as much as I was able to. I was driven a little harder than my body could handle, which I think is part of the reason I got that cold.
Lastly, I have been having bad days at MT and BJJ. Days when I can't finish a technique, or I can't get in to punch someone or land a kick to save my life. It's as if I've never done the techniques before. This really gets to me, as the only thing I've got is technique. So, when I can't pull it off, it enrages me. I almost walked out of BJJ yesterday.
Anyway, I'm saying all that to say this. I've been having sort of a crisis of training recently. I am constantly having to remind myself why I'm going to martial arts training. Sometimes I have trouble thinking of a reason.
I initially started doing MT and BJJ because it plugged into ECQC so well. It allows footwork and positioning and control to access weapons and get out of trouble. Plus a MT round kick to the leg is a near perfect street kick. After a year or so of making myself go to class, I started falling in love with the art. I wanted to compete, fight, and win. I went a few more months and was improving and on the upward swing. I am currently in a slump where I feel like I can't get out of my own way. I'm sure this is a mental game and I know lots of people go through the same thing. Many of them quit. There are a lot more near blue belts, than blue belts. A lot of people stagnate and lose interest. I didn't want to be one of those people.
I also have sort of a reputation to uphold. I initially started training and put my 'journey' under public scrutiny (damn you FB) to help motivate me off of the couch. Well, since then, I have had at least 5 people tell me thanks for motivating them and how much I've helped them. I also have guys on FB and some forums who message me and update me on their progress. This means more to me than I can write on here. So I feel an obligation to them to keep going. I feel like I'm a poser if I don't.
On the other hand, I really only have to answer to myself at the end of this life, so who cares what anyone thinks.
I'm a list maker. Here's a list.
Reasons to remain in MT and BJJ as much as possible until baby comes and after:
-The skill set is still the most applicable thing to 0 feet gun fighting that exists (as far as I can tell)
- I am more confident now than I have ever been in my life
- I don't want to be a quitter. I HATE being a quitter.
- I am motivating people to do new things, and change their lives (maybe overstated, but give me a break)
- I am in better shape than I have ever been in my life.
- To earn higher rankings (I don't want to be a belt chaser, but I'd be lying if this wasn't part of my motivation)
- Being in martial arts helps me remain disciplined and gives me goals (Can't be overstated, I need goals in my training or I stagnate and eventually quit)
- They help me remain compliant to my diet and other aspects of health (lifting weights does this too)
- It's hard, and most people don't want to do hard thing. I can be different and do hard things.
- I want to be able to tell good stories to my kids. No good stories come from sitting on a couch.
Reasons to quit:
- Quitting is easy
- I'm frustrated with my progress, and suck at this crap
- I'll never be a fighter, and I'm not even good against people who are new in our gym.
- I have a strong enough base in this to keep practicing on my own, and be serviceable
- It's hard. Both on my body, and my ego.
- I don't owe anything to anyone, and I can be a slob if I want.
- I'll save money every month ( more money for beer)
- I'll have more time for other sports (the only really legit reason I can see)
I guess when I'm logical, I need to continue. Overtraining is something I will cure when the baby comes. I'll be on a forced hiatus. Actually, I'm pretty glad I'll have to take time off. I'll be able to get strong and lift weights, maybe do some races, trail running, and other stuff that I can do at home. The trick there will be finding motivation. But maybe wanting to get away from a screaming baby will be enough.
Staying the course,
M